After our honeymoon in Singapore, Malaysia, and Indonesia, my wife returned to Canada, and we started a long-distance relationship (LDR). In the first week, we barely texted, and only had a brief call over the weekend. She mentioned she was tired and needed rest. The following week was similar—brief texts and another short call where I expressed missing her and the difficulty of the 12-hour time difference. I suggested that we should invest more effort into our relationship, but she responded that I had more time to think about it and that she was busy with her job and family. Her response made me realize that she didn’t understand how relationships work and wasn’t willing to put in the effort to strengthen our bond. During our 10 months of courtship before marriage, I was patient, gave reassurance, and prioritized her. I had once asked if she was genuinely interested in marriage, as her efforts seemed lacking, and she admitted she didn’t know how relationships worked but promised to prioritize me and the marriage after the wedding. I also made efforts to ensure her happiness, such as paying for our honeymoon and wedding expenses. However, her continued reluctance and emotional distance made me realize that this marriage might not be sustainable in the long term. I suggested she move to Singapore for a few years so we could build a stronger bond, with me financially supporting her. She rejected this idea and resisted any efforts to bring us closer. Not wanting to deal with emotional or mental infidelity, I had to face the reality of our situation. How can I build a family with a spouse who is emotionally distance, doesn't even try to make things work and will only be happy if I don't have any needs. Despite involving our families, no resolution was reached. When I asked for her input on possible solutions, she said, “I don't have a solution, you find a solution based on this situation.” Eventually, I decided to let her go for the sake of my mental peace. The marriage lasted only 4 months, and I’ve learned valuable lessons from this experience: never ignore red flags, people don't change, understand your needs, and be with someone who shares your level of emotional maturity.

This lady is married with 3 children. Another man is married with 1 children. She keep meeting him out every day. This married man always whataspp her n even call her dear. This married lady's husband doesn't know at all. She said if her husband know will not like it. But she still allow that married man call her dear. They everyday meet do volunteer work, eating also share the same spoon. This is not a good hygiene. Sharing the same spoon is only for hubby n wife. But they are not couple. Only as friend. His wife still unaware of it but his wife doesn't like him call other people's wife as dear. Every Sunday he still call her . And he is not with her, this married lady know what time he is free. So terrible.

Hi, thx for the advices. I’d like to clarify a few things. I wasn’t aware that my ex gf came from a wealthy family; she kept that a secret until I met her parents in Germany. And no, I’m ain't that type to look for rich gf, I only worked for her dad, everything just unfolded that way. Someone suggested that I continue working for him. He did ask if I wanted to stay on since I already know the ins and outs, and have the network but that would be really hard for me, I would be in close proximity to his daughter. Awkward. I reached out for advice because I’ve been feeling lost. I’ve spent most of my life playing games without thinking about my future or taking on responsibilities. It took a breakup for me to wake up to this reality. I still have the savings I accumulated, but now I’m mainly giving money to my lovely mom. I don’t waste money on trivial things I'm a gamer. Honestly, once you start seeing that kind of money rolling in, it’s tough to think about starting over from scratch. I’ve always wanted to start a biz here (FnB), kinda knew the failure rate is high as well and I have no idea where to begin. Finding suppliers, equipment, and understanding the ins and outs—those things you typically learn while working part time or something. Unfortunately, I don’t have that exp, and at this age, it’s pretty hard. Anyway, at some point, I guess I’ll just have to start from zero or invest some money into the business and learn from there. I just dont know how this pathetic private dip is gonna get me any job too. PS: I did try to DM some small business owners on Fb, TikTok, and IG with simple questions, but none of them responded to me. I guess I’ll have to learn the hard way.

Some background is that my mum is one of those older generation that treats pets like toys where they can be discarded anytime once you get bored of it and believes that pets are a waste of money. When my siblings and I were young, we’ve had several pets that were eventually given away after a short period of time once the novelty of it wears off or when one of us sibling gets injured by it due to the lack of proper knowledge on how to play with animals respectfully as kids. I am child free by choice and have several cats that I do love and treat as my own children much to the disappointment of my mum who keeps pestering me to have human kids instead. Now as adults, we all have our own family and house and my mum is staying alone for now. She has hinted that she would eventually like to move in with me when she gets older but the issue is that I have several pet cats and she still has the belief that they are a waste of money and has a few times told me to give them away and stop wasting money on them. Even when my house was undergoing renovation, I’ve had to pay a large sum of money for their boarding instead of asking her to help take care as she joked that she will ‘accidentally’ leave the door open and let the cats run away. While she has not outright ask to move in, because of those comments of hers, I am extremely unwilling and hesitant to have her move in with me in the future as I believe she will do something to my cats such as letting them run out of the house by pretending to forget to close the gate or cause harm to my cats by ‘accident’. I also do not wish to cage my cats up for majority of the day as I work long hours when they are used to having the freedom to roam the entire house as they like. I am definitely not willing to give my cats away just so my mum can move in with me as well. My sibling is unlikely to let her move in with them either due to bad relationship or lack of space in their house due to children. Because of this, I’m apparently a disappointment and a unfilial child but all I want is to protect my cats.

Most of us in Singapore are groom to study hard, work smart, climb the corporate ladder. Having the privilege to work for a long time and I did manage to climb to a certain level, I have seen leaders or management that are super unqualified, some of them are did not even attend college are in the top level of the company captaining a large ship. When u sit thru those meetings with the stake and shareholder, these people throwing smokes, curve balls in the meeting are unbelievable! So to those whom are inspired to the climbing the ladder! Don’t worry, smoke ur way thru until u make it!