The person I'm dating holds a fairly high position at a reputable company. Recently, I found out that he's actually still married and even had a baby not too long ago. I don't know how to feel because I was under the impression that he and his wife were in the middle of a divorce. When I confronted him, he admitted that he told me that because he didn't want to lose me. Now I feel betrayed. Not knowing what else he lied about. What advice do you have for me? Should I expose him to his company and his wife?

Single or Married, We Are Still Our Parents' Children One thing I have noticed is that when people see an unmarried son or daughter caring for an elderly parent, they are often met with sympathy and concern. People ask, "How are you coping?" "Are you doing okay?" "That must be difficult." And rightly so. Caring for an elderly parent while juggling work and personal responsibilities is not easy. But what about the married son or daughter? What about the daughter who is raising children, managing a household, supporting her spouse, working, and at the same time caring for ageing parents? Why is it that instead of asking, "How are you?" or "Do you need help?", many are quick to say, "Please take care of your parents." As if that responsibility has not already been weighing heavily on their shoulders. Caregiving does not become easier just because someone is married. Having a spouse and children does not mean a person has unlimited time, energy, or emotional capacity. Sometimes it means carrying even more responsibilities while trying not to let anyone down. What saddens me even more is when caregiving turns into a competition between siblings. One sibling is single. One sibling is married. One may have more flexibility in their schedule. One may have children and family commitments. Their situations are different, but their love for their parents should never be measured against one another. No sibling should feel that their sacrifices are constantly being compared. No sibling should be made to feel guilty because their life circumstances are different. No sibling should be spoken badly about behind their back. No sibling should be made to feel unwelcome around their own family. Sometimes people assume that because a sibling visits less often, they care less. But they do not see the responsibilities, struggles, and sacrifices happening behind closed doors. And sometimes, the reason a sibling becomes distant is not because they do not love their parent. It is because family interactions have become so uncomfortable that being around certain relatives or siblings causes more stress than comfort. That is a heartbreaking place for any family to reach. Our elderly parents do not need their children competing over who does more. They do not need scorekeeping. They do not need comparisons between the single child and the married child. What they need is for their children to work together, communicate honestly, support one another, and put aside pride and resentment. Single or married, every caregiver deserves empathy. Single or married, every child carries burdens that others may not see. Single or married, we are still our parents' children. Before judging a sibling's contribution, try understanding their circumstances. Before criticising, try offering help. Before reminding someone of their responsibilities, ask them how they are doing. A little kindness can go a long way. Because caring for elderly parents should never be a competition. It should be an act of love that brings families together, not drives them apart.

I was recently divorced and I have a handicap daughter whom I have custody of. I got to know a 41 year old interventional cardiologist on a dating site, post divorce. At first, I thanked my lucky stars that this guy seemed to understand me. He has good taste in music, is very sporty (plays soccer regularly) and he keeps fish and rays as a hobby. He seems like a total package. He seems to enjoy all the activities that I enjoy too. For me, it is red wine and sake. He would often tell me about his exes and even the people that he worked with. At the end of two weeks of knowing him, the red flags start to appear. He would paint his exes and colleagues as bad guys. That he is the holy one who can’t do any wrong. That everyone else is bad. I find myself stroking his ego and reassuring him all the time. He also calls himself God. That he loves when he arrives late to the operating theatre and cath lab and have everyone waiting for him like he is the king. At first I thought he was very into me but he starts to compare me with other women in his life. He calls them the xiao mei mei. These are the stent reps who wants him to buy stents from them. He would go on and on about how they are “low class women” and that he only dates high class women. However, it was much later that I realise he is actually sleeping with them or at least up to hanky panky with them during his conferences abroad or in car parks or hotels for “quickies”. I found out later from his colleague whom I happen to know but he doesn’t know that I know, that he is actually married (to another doctor) and has two young sons. That’s when I realise he was not truthful about many things and I investigated further. He also sleeps around with his former schoolmate, ex colleagues apart from stent reps. All in, he seems very entitled and is always lying non stop. I actually caught him hanky panky in an elevator without him knowing that I saw and when I called him, he lied about it. Be very careful about players in Singapore. In my opinion, more than a few doctors are players and they are highly selfish because they think they are God for saving lives and are surrounding by women sales reps and assistants/ nurses. They are emotionally unavailable and would hop onto a new woman once the chase is over. He is forever seeking only thrills and attention. The lying and deception is what drove me to write this.

It's always the same ass bullshit. They see something at night, they feel something when they walk alone somewhere in the middle of nowhere, they went on a vacation to a place where there's reported supernatural things and that thing follows them, they apparently have a supernatural thing following them like a guardian, or whatever. Like okay, we get it, you can see and feel these things. Now shut the fuck up already sheeeeessshhhh I get that you're such a boring person that you need to keep milking up this "ability" of yours but holy fk its just pure cringe just please get a life and start contributing to society already fuck man.

Good Afternoon Bros and Sis, May I know, does anyone have any effective and reputable Chinese Medium (Tangki) here or JB to highly recommend please? Need to pray someone to have peaceful death or pass on so that he will not suffer in this world or be a burden to his family members again. No keyboard warriors condemning or bad mouthing please, only sound advice needed. Appreciate it lots. Thanks.

Dear bff, Let's clear up any confusion that's still bothering you. Let's just say that if I stared blankly into a space, it's because there were thousand of things running in my mind which I wasn't sure whether to tell you yet. It was not your fault really... as in I wasn't angry at you or anything like that. Actually I was ok to talk about anything if it was just you and me. Just know that when a friend was with us, the dynamic of our interaction could deviate very much from what it normally feels like (which I didn't really know why). Do you feel the same too? Any idea why? - I was wondering which one was the real you. Or do you have double personality just like me?