I'm 45m. Below is my story. Lately, I've been quiet. Not because I have nothing to say—but because I'm tired of explaining a pain that doesn't fit into a neat story. For years, I gave my best. Long hours. Hard work. Extra miles that no one asked for but that I was proud to give. I stayed patient when I was told to wait. I trusted when I was told things would come. I believed that consistency, loyalty, and results would eventually mean something. But somewhere along the way, the rules changed. Or maybe they were always different than I believed. I've watched people rise for reasons I still don't fully understand. Not jealousy—just confusion. I've been moved sideways when I was told to expect forward. I've sat in rooms where I was praised, only to be passed over when it mattered. And recently, I received a grade that didn't reflect what I actually did—or who I actually am. I feel so tired and when I meet up with friends to talk it off, I felt worst. I'm not naming names. I'm not pointing fingers. I'm just too damn tired. Tired of being told to "let it go" by friends who have never had to carry what I'm carrying. Tired of being cut off mid-sentence when I finally gather the courage to be honest. Tired of smiling through disappointment like it's part of the job description. The hardest part isn't the rejection. It's the loneliness of being in a system that no longer sees you—and realizing that even some people you called friends don't know how to sit with you in that reality. I'm still showing up. I'm still trying. I'm still hoping that maybe one more door will open before time runs out. But honestly? I'm also starting to accept that this chapter may not end the way I once dreamed. And that's a painful kind of peace to make. If you've ever felt unseen, undervalued, or just plain exhausted by a system that promised fairness but delivered something else—you're not alone. I see you. And if you don't know what to say to someone like us? Just listen. That's enough. Thanks for reading.

Disclaimer: just want to let this out. I don't want any solution on this matter. Before marriage we did talk about it. He made it clear that he doesn't want any. I on the other hand, at that time, don't want kids too. Although, I wouldn't mind. Years into our marriage, idk what it is, but I suddenly yearn to have at least one child. Talked to him.. And he looked scared. He told me that he still doesn't want any. Thing is he never really told me why. He told me things like not financially ready, world's economy, etc. but we're more than ready financially in most situations we can still work it out. After some talk... He finally revealed his true reasons. He said that he grew up with 3 special sibling, if you get what I'm saying. He was their main caretaker too for so long, since his parents were busy with work. He loves them, but he's also very exhausted. It's to the point for the most part of his life, he never really had any life but to take care of them. His siblings are no longer around. Apparently passed away due to an accident when his parents drive them somewhere. He wasn't in the car at the time. So, he has no close family left. He told me all of these before, but not the part where his siblings are born with special needs. He then said, he noticed that both his mother and father's side of the family, also have special needs individuals. So his deep fear is that, what if our kids are in special needs.. He said it's probably in his genes. He said that it's not my fault. It's just that as much as he loves his siblings before, it's extremely exhausting + missing out a lot of things in life. He yearns to live life like others. I find his reasons to be very valid. But.. Now there's me. I really want a child.. But..I don't want to be selfish too.. He cried and apologised to me about his genes. He said that he really don't want to risk it. And that if I want to leave him, he's going to respect that decision. I love him. I know I won't leave him. But I guess I won't be changing his mind about having kids. I'll respect his wishes.

I regret my actions, which occurred several months prior to your wedding. I had traveled to a country where your partner was staying. He visited me at my hotel, and we engaged in intimate physical contact. To this day, I feel profound guilt regarding this incident. One month later, I discovered I was pregnant. Due to overwhelming feelings of remorse, I proceeded with a termination. While I hold affection for your partner, I recognize that I am not the right person for them. Consequently, I have decided to distance myself from your partner to prevent any recurrence of these feelings. I intend to maintain a respectful relationship with you. Please cherish your partner. Ps. Congrats on your wedding.

Hi all, I'm a betrayed partner. I am writing this a guilt is really eating me up. After discovering my husband's affair, I reached out to the affair partner and asked her to stop pursuing him. At the time, I did not tell her that my husband had been begging me to stay and also involved with multiple people and that there could potentially be sexual health risks involved. Despite my request, the affair continued. A few months later, my husband ended things with her after having used her for several months and getting bored of her. After that, I informed her that he had not been faithful to her either and had been seeing other people during their involvement. From what I later heard, she was deeply hurt and devastated by this revelation that she was being cheated too. Am i the bad person for not telling her in the first instant.

I'm speaking for both genders so don't any of you sensitive ass social justice losers bring gender wars into this. And this is the case where there's really nothing left to lose. I'm not talking things like when y'all have a child to think about, or being threatened, etc. I would pray that you'll find a way out of it if you're in this situation. But anyways, if you're one of those who're in an abusive relationship, I'll be extremely harsh here. If you know you're not happy, and there's nothing left to lose to just leave, but you choose to stay, that's 100% your fault. YES, THE ABUSER IN THE RELATIONSHIP IS WRONG AND SHOULD BE PUNISHED BUT THEY ARE NOT GOING TO TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY. YOU ON THE OTHER HAND, HAVE 100% FREE WILL TO FUCKING LEAVE. SO IF YOU CHOOSE TO STAY THEN HOLY FUCKING SHIT YOU'RE STUPID AS FUCK. Just. Fucking. Leave. Like holy shit, you got punched, kicked, yelled at over small matter, humiliated in public, and you simply forgive them cause you're hoping for a change? THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE FUCKING HELL PEOPLE WILL CHANGE WHEN THEY WANT TO AND NEVER BECAUSE OF YOU. "It's complicated" NO IT'S NOT JUST FUCKING LEAVE "If it happens to you then you'll understand" I WON'T EVER LET IT HAPPEN TO ME I'LL JUST LEAVE IMMEDIATELY "I see something in him/her" LIKE WHAT? A FUCKING REMATCH??? "Deep down he/she is a sweet person you don't know that" ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS WHO CARES HOW SWEET THEY CAN BE STOP GOING ONLINE AND YAP ALL THE SAME ISSUES WHEN THE ANSWER IS RIGHT THERE YOU STUPID PIECE OF SHIT. OMG JUST LEAVE!!! IF YOU'RE ONE OF THEM READING THIS, THIS IS YOUR FUCKING SIGN. STILL DON'T LEAVE THEN LEAST YOU CAN DO IS SHUT THE BLOODY FUCK UP.

Hello! I just wanted to share my story with whoever wrote about housing security being engaged to a foreigner. I personally think some comments worded very harshly, but it's kind of true. You need to be secure and make plans together with your partner and be okay wth delays. Life is always unexpected. That said, yes, not having security when you planned for it is definitely anxiety inducing. I have friends who are married in countries that predominatly rent and not own their place (central europe), and this has caused a lot of friction in their relationship when they realise home ownership was absolutely not considered by their partners. The first thing that stood out to me was, all your friends are from SG still. That's fine but try to make friends with Singaporeans overseas. There are FB groups for this. You need a support channel to help you through your journey and Singaporeans back home very unfortunately cannot do much for you. So my story is similar to yours, except we never really counted on inheriting anything from either side of our family. We procrastinated getting married and Covid happened so since the resale market went crazy, I was the one who decided I'm okay to leave Singapore to try something new. We now own our humble apartment in a small city of our choice but it took a while to get here. There is a few key potholes when getting married to a foreigner. Especially if you are a girl marrying white man (sorry, need to call out this group). A majority of the spouse migrants rely on their husband to provide. This means you will be reliant on him and his family for any sort of resources, and this co-dependency is not healthy. I always say, when you look for a partner, you must be sure you can provide something equal in exchange. Don't just take, give. You decided to marry him because you know he can provide / has good character. And I am sure you are of good character as you just want your future family's future to be secure, but you are lacking leverage so you need to find that for yourself. Anything outside the typical Singapore story is difficult, because you have nothing to reference from. But also because the Singapore story is so well-defined, you can always come home and live that story. HDB with decaying lease you can get under 400k. Have your kid and then BTO later is also an option. Point is, you are not locked out. So discuss with him again and see where you final destination should be, then buy in that location when the time is right. A home is a 25 year mortgage commitment, so it is a big decision and oftentimes not an easy one to make for intl couples, so I get it. But what a privilege to have this choice, am I right?