In April 2023, I left my job in Singapore and moved to Malaysia to join my dad’s company as an HR personnel. At that time, I was in a three-year relationship with my Singaporean boyfriend. We cared about each other, but our relationship had been struggling, especially when it came to marriage matters and our future together. That was when I met someone at work. He was the Group General Manager, older than me, confident, intelligent, and easy to talk to. He was previously based in Perth and now in Malaysia working due to family reasons. For the first time in a long while, I felt understood. We could talk for hours about anything and everything. I remember thinking to myself, “If only he were my boyfriend.” Then I found out he was married with a child. We both knew where the boundaries were supposed to be. Yet somehow, we became part of each other’s daily lives. Every morning, he would text me. We shared our thoughts, our frustrations, and the little details of our days. He even bought me flowers despite being allergic to them. Things became complicated when his wife discovered my existence. She texted me and said she is ok with separating her husband as she never had loved him. The only reason why they got together was because she wanted a kid. My father found out about our situation and fired him from the company. Not long after, I resigned and returned to Singapore. We stopped talking. But I couldn’t let go. I tried reaching out. I even flew to Perth hoping to find him. For seven months, there was only silence. Then one day, he texted back. After that, he would appear and disappear from my life without warning. In November 2025, he reached out to me again and asked if I was single. By then, I was already married. My husband is a genuinely good man. He loves me, supports me, and has given me everything I could ask for in a partner. Yet there are moments when I feel guilty because a part of my heart still remembers someone else. The hardest truth I’ve had to accept is that love is not always about who we end up with. Sometimes the people who leave the deepest mark on our lives are the ones we never truly had. I don’t know whether what I felt was love, timing, obsession, unfinished business, or simply the longing for someone who made me feel seen. What I do know is that some stories never really end. We just learn how to live with them.

Hello Admin, could you please help me post this? I would really like to hear answers directly from Singaporean Malay men. Here’s the situation: I’ve met many Malay men through dating apps. I’ve been intimate with almost all of them. But why is it always like this? I’ve done everything I could, and sometimes I even spent my own money on them. Even when I already noticed red flags, I still kept using dating apps and meeting people. But in the end, they all ghost me, Admin. After the first meeting and after we’ve slept together, that’s it. No more messages, no more communication. I just want to ask: Is it because I’m only a domestic helper here in Singapore that no one wants to take me seriously?Does my breath,body and armpit stinks? Are you only looking for temporary fun and nothing more?

We are a young family with an infant of 5 months old, doing our part as Singaporeans to raise the TFR rate. Years back, we opt for a BTO project with a completion year of 2029 (Miltonia Breeze). We tried 8 times before successfully getting a BTO and decided to take anything available at that time as we were desperate to have a place of our own after COVID. At that point of time, I was not pregnant, and living in a small 2 room flat with my mother. We thought that after COVID, the construction completed date might be brought forward. That did not happen. We are now currently living in a 5rm flat (owned by a family member). However, the family member have to take back the flat after retrenchment and will need to use it for rental income. We tried appealing to HDB to let us forfeit our BTO so we can buy resale, but we got rejected. They did not want to waive off the 1 year waiting period and 5% forfeiture fees. Imposing for such harsh penalities is to ensure homebuyers do not give up their flats easily... however why are sincere Singaporeans like us who really need a home ASAP not be allowed a waiver? We even sought MP help for this, but the HDB appeal was still rejected in the end. Holding my infant baby and worry about not having shelter in a few months, I am at a loss of what to do. Please post my story, because at this moment, I feel that the government is not extending support to helpless parents trying to build a family, and I have no other way out to plead for help other than trying to see an MP again and plead my case publicly. Please give us any advice.

Kay, a 40 year old woman with 2 children is having a relationship with a 60 year old man, widowed. It started when they were chatting over social media platforms. They shared many same interests and thoughts which led to personal issues. Kay, who is lonely and feels neglected by her husband since her second born daughter (3 years ago). They didn’t communicate only on issues involving the family or home. She tried many times to talk to him but was brushed off with excuses of him being “tired”. She tried so many ways and to the extend of looking pretty and sexy.. Nonetheless, she realised that her marriage is based on her children and husband is for the “provider”. Intimacy between them has long gone no matter how hard she tried and to the extend of leaving him, but he refused stating that he “loved” her and his children. There is no signs of him having any affairs or medical issues.. things just stayed that way. Kay, who is in corporate position feels “empty”. Life is just juggling between work, children and home. Her husband is just a co-sharing person in the household. Back to the man that she communicates in social media, they exchanged numbers and started to communicate via WhatsApp. She feels safe whenever they talk and knowing that he is 20 years older with experienced in relationships and he, too is lonely since his wife’s death 6 years ago. Time after time, they met and had intimate relationships that led to sexual contact. It was an experience that she thought was amazing and she had the ability to fulfil her needs. At the same time, feeling guilty whenever she is back home. The same guilt was expressed by the man as he felt as a “home wrecker “ and isn’t right for him to lead her in the first place. Both are guilty. Time passes by, Kay has stopped seeing that man as he finally managed to find a partner, a wife. Kay? She is now as she is. “ happy” with her children and her “dead” husband.