This is non fiction. I am sharing because I hope that no one makes the same mistake as me. You really need to choose the right life partner. Context: I have a narcissistic wife. In the X number of years together, she has never admitted to any mistakes or wrong doings. Even when she is wrong, she would either use anger or past disputes to put the blame back on me. I am always the person in the wrong no matter how hard I tried. I am an easy going person. As much as possible, I would avoid conflict or head on arguments. I prefer to cool down, sit down and discuss amicably and work out a solution. I do have my temper, I do have my views. I make them known in a proper way hoping that it gets communicated through clearly and in the best way possible. I would give in, pamper and give her the best because to me that’s my expression of love. Make no mistake that I still love her while typing this. The infidelity: I caught my spouse cheating few years back. It was undisputed as I witnessed it in person , have concrete evidences and have been living in pain ever since. Basically, I caught my spouse having sex with another man. When confronted, there was no remorse or apology. Using a passive aggressive method, I was made to believe that I was made mistakes that resulted in her actions. I read countless marriage articles, first person accounts and even religious teachings; the verdict that I got was that 1) I can choose to forgive if she is remorseful and is willing to change , but in return I have to try to forgive wholeheartedly and accept the incidents that have happened 2) I should divorce if she plans to continue to see and contact the affair partner and show no intention to remain faithful to the marriage In my cases unfortunately, my spouse does not think that she has wronged in any way. The contact with the affair partner resumed. Changing various modes of communications, hidden chats, hidden apps, passwords, face locks etc To be frank, a lot of effort was put into concealing the relationship that she’s been hiding. I know I need a divorce because mentally and emotionally I am in exceptional pain. I live in pain every single day. When I know that they are messaging, the pain intensifies, it’s really like a dagger to the heart. In my last straw attempt, I try to change every aspect to give her the life that she wants or at least in my opinion to make her the queen of my life. Personally I have seen a psychiatrist , took medication to cope with the trauma and pain but it’s not helping, To be very honest, suicide is on my mind every single day. What’s holding me back I have a few kids and they are my meaning and love of my life. I have told them before, I would give everything I can and have to give them a good life. Thus I can’t bear to divorce and I do not want to break up the kids family. As much as possible I want to give them a complete family. The kids love their mum to the moon and back. I know the kids will be happy if the family remains in tact. I told my spouse before that we have a perfect family. We are living a good lifestyle. We basically have everything most people want. I have given my all to this family. Money, time, emotion, heart, hard work basically everything. Why can’t she just end the affair and carry with our lives? Why bother to hide, why bother to keep a relationship that is wrong morally, ethically and one that will cause the family to fall apart? I am not ranting, but rather I am at my wits end. I know my wife is a goner, I have accepted the fact. If she doesn’t have good moral values or life principles, it’s not my ability and duty to teach or change her. But what should I do for the kids? They are the love of my life and I absolutely have no heart to break their hearts Pls choose your marriage partner carefully, proper moral values have to be aligned. That’s fundamental and important

im a fresh poly grad and recently as soon as i got a job, my parents cut off all financial support (except utilities and phone bills) but my (very first) pay wont even come in till mid-august and im surviving on my last $150 which has to cover my meals, (adult) transport fare. ive been trying to stick to below $5 per meal (2x a day) and transport costs around $4 for me to go to work and back home. my total spendings in a day is about $10-20 so far but im definitely not going to have enough till i receive my pay. any advice on what i can do? i have already tried talking to my parents but they still refuse to help

So I'm 12 and I'm dating my classmate. We are both shy so we don't rlly talk to each other most of the time our friends will find a way to put me and him together. And since his results are kinda average and gets scolded a lot in class my friends all say he's a red flag. Once he left me on read for a week and on delivered for more than a week. Even though I still like him it doesn't seem like he likes me even my friends agree. Should I continue to date him or break up?

I have started at this firm 2years+ and thankfully my boss (HOD) confirmed my as a permanently earlier than the usual policy of 2+ 2year. I report to her directly since a person I suppose to report to has left. She kind and bother to guide and clarify quickly over a call. In fact many calls and micro meetings in her room, unstructured. Some times chat more than work stuffs. She will say she sees potential in me and I’m aware she treats me well and better than others of the similar level. And old birds have things to say cos based on my portfolios they don’t really require ops but many financials reporting to different stakeholders. Others need to do daily ops, manage internal staffs. Sometimes she’s too clingy as a boss, relying on my to remember many details and I feel I’m evolving to her PA cos my workload not a lot and I can attend to her ad hoc request. hand hold me since the start - while others have a department manager to guide. Now my portfolio not doing well and to cease soon and Aug restructuring. She told me she’s planning a job/ role to weave me into. The other business unit that doesn’t really like her as a HOD. Even for lunch she will ask me to join her cos she doesn’t mingle with other HODs. I will respond to her anytime cos I’m appreciative of having a job after being a stay home mum for sometime. As much as I’m comfortable with working with her I don’t a progress in this career. Where internal transfers are possible I have no confident to pursue. Should I just wait for her to plan my career?

I am currently a paralegal of a law firm. The recent article about lawyers leaving the profession has attracted a lot of attention. However, I believe that support staff, paralegal and legal executives are overlooked. While lawyers are burning out, whenever they are pressured, or being scolded by judges, they bring their anger down to the paralegal and legal executives. I was just being labelled as “stupid” and “having brains but never use.” In fact, in most law firms, the paralegal and legal executives are the ones drafting the entire legal documents and not the lawyers. In fact, some lawyers don’t even talk to the clients and it was the paralegal. So to all lawyers who are always complaining tired and getting scolded by judges, please look at the mirror and think who is the one who’s actually doing the work. Thank you for reading.

We were together for many years. He has a wife and daughters. I knew from the beginning there was no future, no promises. But I fell in love anyway. He was my best friend before anything else. Good looking, doing well in his career. I never intended to fall for him — I just liked him as a person. What started as friends with benefits turned into real emotions, and before I knew it, I was in too deep. All along, he gave me every boyfriend and girlfriend treatment. We celebrated birthdays, Christmas, Valentine's Day together. He once said: "We are in a relationship, committed to each other in a way." It never felt casual — not even once. He only texted on working days. I complied. We only met during office hours — lunch breaks, or taking leave in the day to be together. Other than our trips, we probably only had dinner together 10 to 20 times in 2 years plus. When he went home at night, our conversation ended. When I was sick, I didn't dare message him. I stopped wearing perfume when we met — because his wife had once questioned why there was a perfume smell on the seat belt. He used to say he didn't want to waste my time. But at the same time, he kept giving me just enough — special treatment, saying he missed me, being intimate with me — just enough to make sure I could never really move on or open my heart to anyone else. I gave 100%. No demands, no drama. I was afraid that if I asked for too much, he would leave. For almost 10 months he kept saying he was planning a trip for us. I waited. I even hoped we could celebrate my 30th birthday together. On 27 May, he sent 3 messages: *"My wife found out about us. I can't meet or see you anymore."* *"I can't be faithful anymore."* *"I need to bring my family back together again."* I replied saying I respected his decision. And I never heard from him again. I am okay with the breakup — even though I was dying inside. What I cannot accept is how he did it. Yes, what we had was morally wrong. But after 2 years plus, I deserved at least a proper goodbye. He is well respected by everyone around him. People see him as a true gentleman. On top of his day to day career, he also serves as a high ranking reservist officer. But this is who he really is behind closed doors. Actually, I was heartbroken. I cried like crazy for the past one month. I ended up having to go to the hospital. I know what we did was wrong. I'm sorry to his wife. And I'm sorry to myself — for wasting 2 years plus on a man who couldn't even give me a proper goodbye. To every girl out there — a man's character goes far beyond what he shows on the outside. You only see who he really is when he is put in a difficult situation. Never fall for someone married. No matter how real it feels, to them, you will always be the one easiest to let go.