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I am in married, female, and in my 40s. I had a very traditional asian father growing up that believed in tough love, corporal punishment and all that. We were not rich. Dad did what he thought was right. I ended up working in the civil service and my brother found success in sales/business. However, due to our upbringing, my brother hated (understatement) father. Dad would use traditional arguments, such as he brought us up, he spent money on us, yada yada to force brother to comply. Since brother was rich already, he wrote a cashiers order for a few million, passed it to my dad as "repayment" for all the years of resources, opportunity costs. He then doubled the amount of money to "buy my freedom" too. Brother then walked out of dad's life forever. Over the years, dad did not attend my brothers wedding, or meet his gf/wife. My dad doesn't know his own grandson. Dad died a few months back due to cancer. And in his deathbed. He confessed to me that driving brother away was his biggest, lifetime regret and he hopes to reconcile. Dad was hard on brother because he needed to teach him how to be a "man". He was extremely proud of my brother. My bro turned out to be the ideal son. Successful man that takes care of his own family. That didn't happen. Brother didn't even attend his funeral. After dad's death, we found out that he didn't touch the millions all these years. We wanted to return bro the money but bro objected, claiming that this money cannot be taken back. We decided do donate it to charity, brother also donated his entire share of my dad's estate to charity... It's too late for our family. But I hope all asian, stern parents... just tell your kid that you love them.