Don’t get married. Yep. I said it. DO NOT GET MARRIED. It’s a scam that’s so normalized that nobody even realizes it’s a scam. I mean it. And I am not some bitter old woman. On the surface I appear to be a moderately successful professional married to another (seemingly) successful white collar professional, and let me tell u… I am miserable af. Marriage is basically paying half for everything like a housemate (nowadays the boys all want to split everything 50:50), and yet you’ll be doing all the household chores and taking on all the unpaid labor, and whole day you’ll be busy cleaning up after somebody’s dustyass son. God only knows why I signed up for this shit show. My life would probably have been a lot better if I didn’t get married and remained single. Don’t just take my word for it. ALL of my married lady friends regret getting married and none of them would want to get married again if they could turn back the clock. Some of them are now divorced, and still having to co-parent with a shitty ass guy who’s out to make their lives miserable & on top of that are horrible shitty fathers. Most guys nowadays aren’t looking for a wife. They just want a new mommy who can cook and clean up after them. Bonus if the new mommy is good looking and/ or has a nice body they can whack at night. That’s all they’re after. I’ve no doubt that the comments will be filled with these pathetic man-children whining about how women bring nothing to the table. We are the whole table, b*tch. We make our own money, we buy our own shit, we can cook our own meals and we can make ourselves cum better than u ever can. What do *YOU* bring to the table, besides a bland AF personality, zero dress sense (let me guess- your whole wardrobe is from Uniqlo & G2000?), average pay check ($3-5k LOL) and average dick (5-6 inches LOL)? So pls for the love of God, ladies don’t get married. Listen to me. Don’t make the same shitty mistake I and along with so many other ladies made. You’ll thank me in the future when you watch all your other friends get married and then divorced. And the G wonders why the marriage and birth rate are dropping year after year. Look at the quality of the guys. Totally CMI. The women have been stepping up and most of us are in the workforce working full time now and financially contributing to the household; as compared to our parents generation. But men? Can’t even fry an egg to save his own life. Yet every expense wanna split 50:50. Hard pass. If you’re already engaged it’s not too late. Call it off. I don’t care if you’ll lose money. Better to lose money than your time. It’s also much worse and much more expensive to get a divorce. If you’re dating, just date him for fun. Date him to satisfy your own needs and for companionship, but focus on your own career and yourself. Don’t need to get too serious. Treat him as a fun hobby. Nothing more. No need to legally bind yourself to one person. And if he’s not treating u like an absolute queen while you’re dating, PLS don’t waste your time. He’s not going to step his game up after marriage. If he’s not at least a 9.5/10 during courtship, don’t bother. It’s only downhill from there. If he’s only a 5-6 now, he will be a 1-2 after marriage. Confirm plus chop. Don’t say nobody tried to warn u.
OneLifeIsWhatWeHave· Bachelor in AdultingMa'am, I salute you 🫡 You eloquently and humorously nail the sad reality too many face. Reading your post made my evening. I feel your pain yet I'd argue to not get too disillusioned. Saying no to the prospect you describe is a no brainer. There are other options than never committing to marriage though. A stricter due diligence maybe? Perhaps start with guys who have checked out of Hotel Mama long before going down on one knee, spending 6 pay cheques on a ring and suggesting to make the trip to RoM together. Find a man who has proven he can take care of himself and more likely than not you won't have to settle for a 3-5k salary slip either. The 5-6 inches could be a different matter altogether though 😂
857d ago · ·- Daydreamer· Idealist
You are definitely a bitter woman who is unsatisfied with own marriage, and hopes no one else ever does. It’s really sad that none of the people in your circle has a good marriage… 🤷♂️
856d ago · · - glib-floor·
She tell of her experiences,if not,everyone included a man will also ended up like her.
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SenseSensibility ·Chill out y'all. To each of our own views alright but there's never right or wrong here actually. If it's up to the individuals, as for myself been witnessing a crazy roller coaster ride of a hella marriage issues around me from friends and loved ones hence I AM SO NOT GONNA settle down...just cannot be selfless for once and settle down with the so called my other half. Wad was advised by #8626 I truly understand a 💯 percent even though I'm myself still single. It's just that a marriage gotta have compromises, sacrifices, putting the other party needs ahead of our own. So yup, it's a disagre to agree kinda situation here but ma'am thank you for the heads up. Life's never a fairytale and there's no such thing as a knight in a shining armour alright. Each person got their weaknesses and strengths so yup best that we accept that person for who they are be it during courtship he's such a gentleman but then after settled down changed 360° and all that's just something unavoidable. People change and so to remain steadily both hands gotta clap together and worked out each and every issues together as a TEAM. Ok so yup that's about it! Take care y'all, stay cool and safe always!
851d ago · ·- SenseSensibility ·
It's like this: Single (after end work go home and eat maggi coz only wanna satisfy your stomach) VS Married (after end work go home, fetch child from Skool, settle the child down if big ones ask them do their homework then must cook for the family as in hubby and MIL if y'all stay with in laws lah) Single when travelling: My OTOT type of planning and do wadeva and go wherever I wanna go VS Married (pack for the entire family, itinerary with the need to plan child's resting time then comes the limited things to do in a family traveling settings) The list can go on and on but yup just overall think like this : EVERYTHING, your decision gotta have the PROS and CONS. so ya just weigh it all before really decide if y'all wanna settle down or not. Those who are married now, I wished y'all all the bliss the world gotta offer you
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